The Dating Haitus

Ok, I made a comment in a previous post that I was currently on a dating hiatus and I’ve had multiple people ask me why. I have this theory that I’d like to share for the whole world to read and ponder, debate, and share with the masses.

People hate to be alone during the winter. If you take out the snuggly times by the fire and romantic walks during a gentle snowfall, the winter is a pretty selfish time of year. Don’t believe me? Let’s take a look.

Halloween is really the last big hurrah of the summer/fall season. Everyone dresses up, goes to parties and when it ends, everyone thinks, “Oh crap, it is almost time for the holidays!” At that point, its task #1 to find someone to date. Lower standards! Overlook flaws! Just don’t let me be alone for the holidays! So what do you get? Well, you often meet people who are so desperate to not be alone that they will date anyone (even those repulsive on the outside or inside, mostly inside though).

Thanksgiving comes and you part ways for the long weekend. I mean, you can’t take someone you’ve known for 2 weeks home for Thanksgiving dinner with mom & dad, can you? There are countless text messages going back and forth professing how much you miss the person and can’t wait to see him at the airport on Sunday night. Distance makes the heart grow fonder and you might even be bold enough to mention to the family, “Hey, I met this great guy a few weeks ago” to everyone’s relief.

Then Christmas is upon you. You get to put time thinking, planning and shopping for that perfect gift for Mr. Right (Now), which studies have shown makes you happier. You also get warm fuzzies knowing that he is out there doing the same thing for you.

Holy cow! Next up is New Year’s Eve. Big plans are made – vacations, parties and don’t forget you’ve got someone to kiss at midnight.

Then comes the biggest day of the year, the make-or-break day: Valentine’s Day! You sit at work waiting on the florist to show up with those roses. Then comes a romantic dinner in a fancy restaurant before the fireworks of your own making.

Then things start to change. Memorial Day is a long ways off. You both get tied up with “life”. Taxes are due. You both put on a few pounds so you need to spend more time at the gym and less time snuggling.

Then it happens. Someone decides its time to cut bait and the relationship ends… just in time for some “Summer Lovin’ “

Personally, for me, its even worse. With my birthday being on March 2, as soon as Valentine’s Day is over, he would bring the relationship to a screeching halt in order to save the time, money and effort into helping me celebrate my day.

So that is the theory of winter dating, and why I’m currently on hiatus. Is it bitter, jaded and highly negative? Probably, but I’ve seen it happen to many, many, many people and I’m sure you have too (heck, it probably has even happened to you). But what can you do? Do like me and endure until April 1!